How to Help Children Cope With the Loss of a Pet

For many children, the loss of a pet is their first experience with death. How adults respond can shape how they understand grief for years to come.

Be Honest, But Gentle

Use clear, age-appropriate language when talking about death. Avoid phrases like “went to sleep,” which can cause fear or confusion.

Explain that death means the pet’s body stopped working and that they don’t feel pain anymore.

Validate Their Feelings

Children may experience sadness, anger, guilt, or even moments of indifference. All of these reactions are normal.

• Let them know all feelings are okay
• Avoid minimizing their grief
• Reassure them that the loss was not their fault

Encourage Expression

Children often process grief through creativity and play. Give them safe ways to express what they’re feeling.

• Drawing pictures or writing letters to their pet
• Sharing favorite memories
• Creating a small memorial together

Maintain Routine

Structure provides comfort during difficult times. Keeping normal routines—such as school, meals, and bedtime—helps children feel safe while they grieve.

Model Healthy Grief

Let children see that adults grieve too—and that it’s okay. This helps them understand that love and loss are connected, and that healing is possible.